What Are The Best Dating Tips For Men in Their 40sHere are 5 realities of mature dating over This can bring up lots of different issues within a relationship but as long as you and your partner are on the same page and work together as a team, it can be very satisfying. Just the basics of eating a balanced diet, getting enough sleep, drinking plenty of water and exercising regularly will help you feel more confident about yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important and remember, there are lots of examples of people later in life who look better than they did in their 20s. According to experts, women reach their sexual peak in their 40s and men can still be in full sexual health throughout life. The key is to not expect yourself to be as energetic as you were in your 20s. Accepting your own imperfections will help you to also accept others.
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Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn. They have been divorced and have a ton of problems and the next guy they land they will always suspect he is doing the same thing the scumbag she left is doing. After they finally leave the scum bag, they move onto another scumbag bad boy and the same repeats itself.
Next thing is sadly, American women love to copy one another and that is having a bunch of tattoos and dressing like trash. I mean come on, us men are expected to not be pigs and have good hygiene right? Maybe have a different wardrobe other then cargo or capri pants.
I am white and I am sickened by the amount of low class types in my own race. If you were born with a missing limb, deaf, cleft palate, MS, blind or some other birth defect its completely different and I personally overlook this because this is not the persons fault.
At the same time, putting a cow ring through your nose is and tells everyone you are starving for attention and you probably need mental help. All it takes now is for some woman to make a false claim you did something to her and everything you ever worked for is GONE.
The biggest lie most of the men are told is that women are always after a guy who has his life in order. So far from the truth. Much like going outside with wet hair and being told you will get sick because of it. Women expect us men to bring a bunch to the table in a relationship, maybe we expect the same in return. What is dating like for a guy over 40?
Not good. And that is better answered by a guy and not a woman. No offense BP. Wow, Matt. Good women sense negativity. I dated in my 40s as a single mom and found a good guy, also with lots of baggage. After 4 years we will be marrying in a few months and blending our families. Kind of have to open your heart a bit too, take a risk, stop judging, and shell out some empathy. I am 41 single, never been married, no kids, no pets, no debts. I am not responsible for my parents as they are very well off and traveling the world.
My last bf was from 9yrs ago who is from the Netherlands. Sure, I dated but never really found someone I was super interested in. I live all over the world for a decade now US for spring and fall, S. It was very interesting, thanks to all these dating apps, it made it easier to meet someone all the time.
Since I became 40, I rarely date. I am comfortable being alone. I accept that if one day I never find my partner that I am okay. For me, my happiness is more important than anything. I would like to meet someone who is happy with themselves, kind to others, reliable, consistent, interesting, who appreciates traveling the world. Currently, I am exploring this new dating chapter of being 41 and so far I am liking it.
However, I am keeping positive at the moment! And thanks for that, someone needs to have children. Oh, it could be nice to meetsome one…. Should I get into a relationship and let my mood potentionally go to a roller coaster state of mind, hight peaks and low vallies? I pick him up for lunch and we used to go to the movies and dinner but he stopped wanting to go out with me.
He still enjoys having lunch with me and calls me on the phone if I ask him to call me. He has a biological child and step children with his ex. She asks him for money for all the kids even though she twice as much as he does and he is always spending his time and money with her family and then complains about it. All I had said was that I wanted us to get to know each other better. I did try to stop talking to him but it seems that when I start walking away he will start talking to me, to reel me back in.
Confused, he probably really enjoys your company and the attention you give him. This article will help you understand why he does this, but if you want a long term, committed relationship you will need to cut ties with this guy for good and move on.
But worse is knowing that when she gets board with me etc and moves on I will lose contact. I tried online dating and it made me really depressed, reading the lists of demands on womens profiles and sending well thought out messages that never got a response was grueling and was giving me a low opinion of women so I stopped. Next year I turn 30 and will officially call it quits, most of my friends already have. I get your reasons and they make sense to me! Get out there, hone your flirting skills and make the first move, like a gentleman.
Good luck! Fair valid points here, but you have missed one very important point which seems to plague Essex and beyond in the United Kingdom.
A lot of women are Money orientated beyond hope. The young 18 year olds with high expectations as mentioned above and that goes right through it would seem appear to older ladies as well.
Brad Pitt lookalike, shitty personality and money and your in. Which is a shame as if the ladies looked beyond the money and shallowness they would find some real honest kind men in Essex that could actually show them Love.
It familiar with Essex specifically, but I work with women all over the world. Certainly not the Grownup women here. The thousands of women I support are far beyond looking for a rich Brad Pitt. They, too, are looking for companionship and love. Look for these women.
Dating rules after 40
They, like good men, are everywhere! He has a point and it is a thing, even with older women. There should be a category in your article for that or at least a mention. I have just joined the 40 club this year and reading this for warning signs as well as how to attract 40 something yr old man.
I have just turned 40 so the bitterness is not quite that intense. I think all the above is important and probably have bits of all.
I think it is good not to rush and test the water before jumping in. I also think there is nothing more attractive than a man who is financially independent and not stingy.
Not saying that he needs to be taken advantage of but it feels good to be spoilt by a man from time to time, what is wrong with that? I also think sex is good, eerrmm, my dear, what is this body for?? If not to be enjoyed??? So yes sex is good, though not looking for an addict not looking for sex priest who will forgive me of my sins before taking the plunge.
However keeping scores, tit for tat, is not my thing, no need for point scoring, we can battle in other fun ways. I am finding that being 40 makes you put things in perspective and ask yourself what you want so I am on a road to self improvement and mental enlightenment but where do I meet that man for cuddles, hugs, dinner and just a fresh air stroll. If you are a man and your priority it to get married and have kids why give that up?
Tia, my blog is filled with how and where to meet good men. Also, I get wanting to feel spoiled by a man. But men can be generous with things other than money. Like, their time, attention, affection, and doing acts of kindness, so maybe expand your idea of generosity? Hope that helps and, at 40, you know yourself well, what you want and what you have to offer so I say go, girl!
How about the triple estrogen breast cancer survivor who is flat due to a mastectomy, has a low sex drive due to an oophorectomy and has scars. Is admired but undateable. Being in a relationship means who do I need to be to nourish another human being partner or child. How can I help this person achieve the expression of their highest self?
Can I see past my list of ideals; see them and honor them by just being present? So many of us wait for a partner to pick us, we give of our time and body to capture their attention yet would you give someone you know for a month your cellphone password? What is your attachment pattern? Who do you attract? You are never alone. You are in the longest relationship which is with yourself.
It can look anyway you want. A hundred years ago we had no options. You are as free as you allow yourself to be. I wish it was easier to find women with a mind like yours. Thanks for sharing. Why do guys walk away from them? I think each category of woman just needs to meet her match.
The princess has self-worth and knows what she wants. More power to her! The scaredy-cat needs someone who can prove themselves trustworthy and is willing to pass some tests. Why is that so much to ask for? The sex pot needs to find someone who puts sex first as well! I see these categories as a way to describe humans in general. Not a single category is unworthy of love. You have some really good points. No way! Thanks for your comment.
I think there is nothing wrong with the types. Nothing wrong with knowing how you expect to be treated, wanting to know you can trust someone or being with someone who finds you attractive. It is when they are so extreme that they become self esteem issues, narcissistic personality disorder, paranoia, etc.
The man I have been dating over 3 years I feel much respect, and yes, love for. He has a woman roommate who is still jealous of me and I think Jerry is correct that it would be uncomfortable if we were both in his home at the same time. He has zilch romantic interest in her, but seems afraid to kick her out, a sort of protective thing. They share a common interest in keeping the house clean and in order; I live in a small low-income apt, and am not very tidy.
Jerry and I like to camp in his 30 yr old van, ad we have no trouble finding common interests. We are affectionate, tho not nearly as passionate as we once were.
We still enjoy singing in choir together, and each pursue our separate interests too. After that I moved to a very rural area and simply never met anyone. I tried online dating but it takes a lot of time and work to even get a reply. I tried improving myself, I started working out etc and am in the best shape of my life. I went back to school, learned a language.
Even taught myself to bake. Is it ok to give up? It seems single men are not very welcome In our society and are viewed with suspicion. Exact same here Alotofguys. I Had given up after foolishly falling in love with some combination of the mentioned personality types.
Thought I had figured it out and Am dating a woman for the last 5 years. She has no savings and I was going to provide for her if she was who I thought she was.
Not sure I can get over it tho. Not sure I should. At this point I no longer see this thing called love as anything other than Anonymously giving, which has nothing to do with a relationship.
Arms length, Get a Dog, help some kids and older folks, look for god, and enjoy what is. Never get married, Ever…somehow the state ends up taking the man for a ride. I am still friends with my ex wife, In my younger years she left for good reason, as did I. Was a rare case of neither of us went after each other afterwards, both of us were wrong and we maintained respect for each other in that honesty after the initial blame games. Great article by the way thanks.
Hats off to the woman with the mastectomy low sex drive and working on herself! Oh, friend… I hear you so loud and clear. We are out here. We are struggling, too, just like you are.
Somehow, we just have to figure out how to connect. Keep searching, dear one. To be on the right place at the right time. Recently divorced, mids guy here. First and foremost, please look like your photo on a first date via an online match.
I expect to see the real you I saw in the photo, not something dramatically different than the one in the made-up, professionally done photograph you posted. Second, please just be yourself. Sounds mature and sensible to me! I barely even consider dating as I see it as a Non starter! Who would want a relationship with Me?
I love my kids, but they continue to dominate everything and continue to cause problems with my relationship with my ex. Wow this was an interesting read but the comments are so depressing as they are mostly people getting divorced or getting out of a long term relationship. Even had to ask friends to take me to prom back in the day. Joined a bunch of clubs, started new hobbies, volunteer…all the things I think I should do to meet someone. Even tried every dating app in existence and hired a professional matchmaker that was unable to find any of her clients willing to date me.
She was just shocked I hung on for so long before succumbing to depression. So to all of you complaining about dating because you just got divorced…know I would love to be in your shoes! To have someone want me enough to want to date me long term or live with me?
You are all very lucky to have experienced it!!!!! The fear comes from not trusting yourself to make good decisions. Takes time and a commitment to learn some new things about yourself and men if you are going to gain that trust in yourself. Stay here, keep learning, Also read about Attachment Theory to find out what your style might be. Most as you continue talking end up being some creepy weirdo into strange sex and quite honestly are hoping they can treat you like a pig.
Many are wishy washy, indecisive, are never upfront with you, and never seem to want to fully commit. My point is men tend to always blame the woman and do not take accountability for their own actions and always make claim they treated their ex like a queen — I call bullshit. Most important we have a future. Look forward instead of looking back.
Most of us are just regular people. We go to work, pay our bills, tend to house, all that fun adult stuff. We or at least I just want a regular man along side of me doing these things. Where are these men that are genuinely looking for companionship? My job is to help women learn what they need to and give them tools to help them find fantastic relationships.
These are limiting beliefs and they have to be clouding your judgement as you meet new men. Just want to encourage you to be open to the idea that you might be able to take more control over your situation.
Hugs, Bp. Us men are not categorizing you. Women have created these categories all on their own, this article just points it out. You are The Bitter Gal lol. Great articke. I will be 47 this year and I am ready to settle down. Throughout the years I did meet wonderful men they do exist but I was not ready or able or afresh to accept those gifts. Instead I made poor decisions that I knew deep down would eventually end badly.
Over the years I had to deal with the physical and mental effects of the domestic violence issue multiple gunshots as well as going back to issues prior. Now after therapy and lots of interior cleaning I am sure I am ready to live my life and have a healthy relationship. Either the natural way or via other options and even adoption. I may be reading your article out of context please forgive me if I am wrong but why does it seem a woman should date older men the 60 year old?
I would be ok with someone close to my age or even younger. There are good men at all age levels, correct? I am thinking from the standpoint of having kids and mutual interests — conversations — friends, etc.
Read these straight-up tips about dating when you're 40 and single to Age-old and foolproof, the rule of seeking actions over words never. 7 Important Rules for Dating After Dating seems to get more difficult as we get older, while meeting that “special someone” may truly feel like. Getting back in the dating game after decades of marriage is a challenge for even the most practiced flirt. After my divorce at age 40, I fantasized heading out to.
I feel as I am with my mothers friends and very lost and uninterested. I like me and my spirit. Yes, I went though a lot but it does not define me. I still see my cup and life as half full.
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So In the ends I am just wondering what are the first steps? I also move frequently so I am having to build literally everything. I have decided moving back to Florida recently is a final move. Online dating is so far easily accessible but emotionally draining. Hi Michelle.
Good for you. Keep learning about yourself and about grownup men. And moving adds to your challenge. I know you know your physical limitations about having a child.
There are alternatives. My problem is finding a woman over 40 that is physically fit and has been for a while. Someone who will continue to keep fit. Plastic surgery used in the right way is fine.
Big boobs but never spending time in the gym is very unattractive. But being fit is a great way to spend retirement years. I need someone to spend the rest of my healthy, fit life with.
Not easy to find which is why many men my age do try to get involved with woman in their mid 30s. I do disagree that there are no women over 40 who consider health and fitness important. So help yourself to those pretty somethings without stretch marks. Gush, Clifford, you are awful. Say that to any woman of any age and she will be gone before you finished your sentence. Most men ARE very superficial, but I do not want those men at all. I will soon start looking for a new life… a wise man to share love and life.
To connect. If I never find one…well so be it. But unfortunately, even the majority of year-olds are still boys. Sad…not looking forward to dating at all. Hopefully, they will talk their mind out right away. I am surprised how many men want women to be physically fit which by the way i totally agree with. So many expectations for the ladies! But I agree that it is super important to look after yourself. NOT for the men. When you look good, you feel good. As a 42 year old single man who has tried internet dating, daing girls I met at work, etc….
I have run into just about everyone of these. The wow girl and the Princess…. Well done. Thanks for letting me know that, Mike.
A couple things: Pay attention to the advice I give women here. So try to have some patience and understanding. Same thing with reading profiles. People suck at writing them so try not to take everything too literally, ok? If you can, try to see past the masks we put on. Men can be like this too!
25 Old-Fashioned Dating Rules to Stop Following After 40
Glad you stopped by Mike. I am 44, my boyfriend is All was good until 2 weeks ago. We were very happy, or I thought we were.
If you're a woman dating after 40, it will help you to know what it's like for the men She still follows “The Rules” and requires that her man do what she wants. When you're over 40 your perspective on life and love is different, but what is dating really like? Here are 5 realities of dating over Looking for some tips when dating in your 40's as a guy? Click to why you haven't been married yet after making it through your 20s and 30s.
All the sudden he retrieved and two days after even stopped texting. Right before this, we used to text every morning, call in the mid of the day, text in the afternoon and call each other at night. All that attention stopped without explanation. I went to visit him the following Sunday because I was scare that something might had happen to him, and found him crying and very sad. But he continued not calling or texting for the next following week.
I went back to his house the following Sunday just to make sure he was fine and he told me he wanted kids. IT was very hurtful, but I respected his decision. We both cried like little kids and I left. After been married before him for 15 years, been by myself for nearly 8 years and now finding a man that full-fills me and all the sudden this unexpected decision.
It really hurts! As a guy, I will say you sound like a very kind and loving person. For you to be willing to reverse your tubes being tied to give this guy a child shows how giving and committed your are. I hate say this but he likely found someone else and the reason could be or could not be your ability to give him kids. I wish you the best. This is why the sexes are bitter with each other. Good hearted people attract and, sad to say, are too often attracted to bad people and the bad people just feast on them.
I liked this article, as I am 35, single and female, and need to learn to relate to the men in their 40s who ask me out. I devoted myself in my 20s to God and religious service.
I had little interest in dating anyone seriously, strengthened relationships with friends and family, traveled the world, had adventures, hopefully made an impact and was happy. Then a life changing injury hit the erase button on my life, and I am beginning all over again.
And this time I am open to falling in love and getting married. But I feel like the chasm between me and other men is too great — culturally. Being celibate — or a Virgin, is a lifestyle not just a status. If I find someone, I want us to fall in love and spend the rest of my life with him. So, nothing is a red flag superficially. Might as well go all the way. A C-cup. So…to whom, where do I direct my energy?
Are there any normal men who would want me, or would they all be baffled by me? Hi Nan. They meet wonderful men who are very understanding. Just be real and share who you are. There are so many kind men who would love to get to know an interesting, loving woman like you. If you do, others will too. I actually know a man who is in a very similar situation and who is looking for someone just like you.
There are men who have followed a similar path to yours. Habits of keeping romantic interest close to the vest, combined with inexperience in pursuing women… oh boy. I have accidental moments of flirty brilliance; but when the stakes are high… yeah. I live in a rural area with almost no singles. The main social centers are churches. All singles over 30 at church are women. I just turned 46 last month. I was divorced in I met someone and became engaged inbut he passed away later that year from a heart attack.
He was 41 years old and appeared very fit and healthy…anyway, after healing from the grief, a bit over a year later, I decided to put myself out into the dating fray. I have had once and done dates and a few dating relationships that lasted a couple of months, but nothing long term or serious. I have found it hard to find men my age who want to date women my age.
Most seem to be looking for the young hot model type. I am not a thin woman, but I a not plus sized either…not sure where I fit in that space. Anyway, I have tried most all dating sites, singles groups and meet ups. All friends and co-workers are married and do not know anyone in my age range to set me up with. Imat a loss of what to do. I feel that I have tried it all. Oh man! I recently tried to date, met this nice man, but my playful was too much. I know what I want out of a man but for some reason keep attracting the wrong kind of guy.
So I ish leave myself out there yet put alot of focus on my kids and work. Where do I go wrong? Still figuring life out. Most of my 30s were busy running my 7 days a week family business which we eventually sold. I now have a great career in the software industry. It just seems that the women I am meeting have an endless well of prospects that they want to go through before committing themselves to getting to know one guy.
A few times, after months of not talking to me. By then. I really want to get married and have a family.
This venting has been highly therapeutic! Thanks for reading! Glad I could give you a place to vent Vik!
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This is all true. We all have something that will be unattractive to a certain portion of the opposite sex. So what. Just how it is. There are actually people who have finally learned not to judge on nonsense such as this. Improve your profile. I have a great friend and colleague who writes great profiles for you. Try harder to get4 to know her and help her get to know you.
Share more about yourself that is meaningful and helps her see your feelings, values…real stuff. There are many things you can do to get better results. Again, we all have stuff that turns off some people. There are tons more out there who are open. I happen to think Indian men are very attractive. Ok…no giving up and no blaming. Get to work learning some new ways to do this dating thing, ok? It never bothered me because most are taller then me anyways but she would give me a hard time about it.
I know this is way later when you wrote this and I am not one to really go on a dating site but if you happen to see this reply you can message me at karacan gmail. In I started casually dating one person for nearly 10 years.
Do I even stand a chance? Hell yes you stand a chance, Becky! We all have stuff at this time in life. Will there be some men who will pass because of your situation? There are thousands more. I was too busy raising kids to date. I was married young and I had the idea that I could change the man of his habits. Not true! Kids are grown, now what? I am probably stuck in the high school dating years.
First focus on YOU; what you have to share, what you want and need. And keep learning how to date like a grownup. I was in a relationship for 9 years and finally gave up forgiving all the times she cheated on me.
Just so you know ladies, teeth can be fixed, but jaded men take awhile to heal. I enjoyed your comment. It was kinda like looking in a mirror but being female instead. Anyway, I was able to have 2 incredible girls who are pretty much grown. He definitely opened my eyes and made me realize that the assumptions like that are very hurtful for him and guys like him. I also divorced in and had a couple of serious relationships after but then after them I decided to just focus on my girls and the dating would come later but later turned into like not dating from to now lol.
Stay positive. I am sure you will find someone. At 42 you are still young enough to have children. I typed up a huge spiel on my ex, but… nah. Why rehash the past, even on the internet? Taking some time to recover from this, and too work on myself has been amazing.
NOT my ex. Online dating was… weird… still back then. Godspeed to you and your journey to have peace and find someone compatible! Thanks but no thanks. I have started dating a man of a different race who has a big belly and is very kind.
No sex, just kissing. He may not be Mr. Right but he sure is Mr. Right Now. That first kiss may be a little peck but it opens the door of possibilities. Texting makes it easier to talk about the adult side of sex like getting tested before you go any further. Setting ground rules like nothing below the waist the first time. The anticipation. Feeling giddy like a teenager all over again. Disabled law officer, but still working. No debt, kids are grown and life is good.
I stay in shape physically and am very active. I believe in shivelry and taking care of each other. I worked all the time to keep women off my mind.
Went on 1 date in Just recently joined a dating app. Had 4 great dates with a wonderful lady. We were both in awe over the connection. We laughed with each other more than I ever had!
Then She said she had to take a step back. It was like some one threw a switch. I really like her! It felt really nice. On a different topic, the dating site I found many ladies are looking for some one to make them happy. I believe you have to be happy with yourself first!
Not rely on others or things to make us happy… It took me awhile to realize this for myself. Now I am thankful every day! Count your blessings.
Thank you. Thanks for your comment, Chris. Amen to being happy with yourself first! You do seem quite wonderful. I am loving the honesty here. I own it. Food is the only love I get most days. Another category I think you forgot is Plain Janes. We just want a grown-up conversation and maybe a kiss stolen in the driveway before the dog wakes everyone up with his hysterical barking.
Planning a date night is a like a logistical military operation, but worth it. Right now we would be thrilled just to go out occasionally.
My prime years for dating were spent working and raising my kid and keeping up with the house. Now what? You just need to be happy and kind. I am so there! I turn 40 in a couple weeks. Widowed almost a year and a half ago. Trying to date with my life stinks! I work four 12 hour shifts a week trying to keep what I have.
Those two things set of PTSD panic attacks. I live in a low population area which really slims down my options. I patiently explain my situation and wish them luck on their search. Where to begin? Now they knew from the beginning that I was born this way because I inherited it from my family.
I apologize if I was off course in this article. I will say that women can be Intimidating not only with their words, but also their looks. Thank you for your service Douglas and also for your wonderful honesty here.
Also, like I told them, keep working on learning and growing so you can become the very best partner you can be to attract the very best love. That includes working on your sense of self love and knowing that you deserve to love and be loved.
So we spoke to a handful of dating coaches and relationship experts for their best tips for dating after Read on, but don't forget: Being on.
Again, thank you for your service. Hi all. Interesting article, and it is giving me hope. We have been married 12 years and together 15 years.
Everything was great until that bombshell. I hope there is someone out there who will be understanding and patient with that because I will obviously stand by and give a lot of support through a lot of stuff.
I am so sorry for your situation but I admire you tremendously for standing by her and your family…for now. I can only imagine the complexities. Stay here and keep learning. I hope I can help make this experience less stressful and, ultimately more joyful. Take Care of Yourself first! I find people have a very unrealistic view of who they are and what they look like!
Not just weight but common grounds, I like being active. I appreciate your visiting and commenting but it seems there is a lot of emphases here on appearance. Granted, there is a reality that people of like appearance tend to gravitate toward one another. But appearance is very subjective. Lots of people are attracted to different looking people. You missed the narcissistic, borderline, bipolar hybrid that does a great job building you up and making you feel like you finally met the right person.
You are on top of the world because you can do no wrong in her eyes and you worship her because she is too good to be true. Everything is perfect — everything.
You two are soulmates for life. Until she gets mad. And then she hits, kicks, throws things, says terrible things and it is clear you two split up for good and you leave. But then she comes back, and is confused why you left because of that little fight. Everyone has one. Its ok and we try again. And the fights get more aggressive.
And more frequent. And more dangerous. It happens, more than you think. We were young, 19, when we got married. We were both in the military and had a lot of goals in common—we had a blast together. Today, we are completely different people and it seems like we just keep growing farther apart.
Everyone asks me all the time why I left, but he just changed. He became obsessed with success and superficial things, he was never like that before. Okay, that part was kinda funny because he only changed the lock on the front door. Thanks for listening! The other thing we do is we start to set expectations and tests that are unspkoken. Self examination of past relationships and looking for the red flags we just passed right by because we were ultimately afraid of being alone can help in knowing why we made the choices we made even if we were quote unquote the victims of there behavior.
And lastly unconditional love which is what men and women are looking for is a big task. That means accepting that person for exactly who they are and loving every bit of them flaws and all, not accepting unacceptable behavior but stretching yourself to seek them right where there at and meeting them there. Unresolved issues of our past are the biggest barriers to long term relationships. Whether you or I want to hear it or believe it water seeks its own level if we want attract better mates we have to grow for ourselves not for anyone else.
Those are my thoughts accept them if you will:. Thanks for your wise insights, Mike. Actual Mike is likely the exact type of man that most women complain about. Tall, better than average income, strong social circle, ability to travel, former bad boy, and attracts most women.
Mostly above average women. Just hotter, less crazy girls. I miss that companion cooking with me, going for walks, watching movies and doing gardening together.
Aparantly this puts men off. No life cover from hubby was paid out, but I can look after myself. The only thing I know for a fact about mature men is that they want either a submissive, Donna Reed housewife type, or an independently wealthy, just-want-someone-to-globetrot with type. Does this make me a scaredy cat of an 18 yr old princess?
Probably, I have no idea. If you are kind, compassionate, affectionate, have some passion in life…you are exactly the kind of women men want. Take some more time to read what I teach, share, and advise here. I guarantee that if you do, and you implement what you learn, things will change for you.
It may be a little scary, but you can change your life! Here is help for you: My. An uneducated person is fully capable of meeting their partners emotional needs! I tell my coaching clients this all the time!
Emotional intelligence is the key to look for at this time in life. Who cares if a person got a college degree 30 years ago??? Thanks for contributing. I agree John. How much a man reads and what his reading materials are is way more important than a sheepskin. Autodidacts are cool.
I love cat ladies.15 Tips to Dating After 40
I am one myself, I even got a crazy hair one day and added a dog to the mix. If you love cats, and I think you do, volunteer at a local shelter. This is so wonderful because while you are loving all the homeless kitties, you might just meet someone awesome who also…adores cats.
I do this, and I hang out at dog parks, pet stores, pet expos…. Maybe the folks on here should date each other. I too have found it extremely difficult to find someone to spend time with after reaching I have three children almost grown. Some of us have taken time to figure out who we are and what we want out of life. Just say hi. I agree with you Kaye…men should give all women a chance. Sure, there are some men who want younger women; especially if they want to have kids.
The truth is that statistically, men marry women within 5 years of their age. I want to let you know that if this is your experience you may want to look at how you might change things up a little.
Maybe express yourself differently online and off. There are SO many men looking for women like you.