I'm 24 Dating a 46 Year Old Man! (Being With An Older Man) - NaturallyNellzyI am a year and a half out of a relationship and in that time, I have found only one guy I was interested in but he did the vanishing act. I am often told I am beautiful and I look about 10 years younger than I my age. I started up a correspondence with him. I was curious. After all, I am twenty years older than he is.
Modern feminists have a lot to answer for. They overcompensated for years of oppression by devaluing men and overselling the power of women to the extent that the social mirror for women these days shames women who want to be stay-home moms.
That expectation was created by feminists. Or so the social mirror compels them. I just want someone committed to the relationship more than committed to self. Because both genders have inherent traits that benefit family-making.
When both work together, harmony and nirvana are achieved. The problem today is that people are too committed to getting what they want. If people would only focus on making each other happy, then all would be well.
Why Do Women in Their 30s Not Want to Date Men in Their 40s?
You wade through trials together and grow together. People only grow apart because they get selfish. We have forgotten the pleasure of making our lover laugh or feel loved. Of conquering obstacles side-by-side.
But they left out the part where unselfishness is the segway to love. You feel better telling your loved one how good they are each day than moaning about how they messed up your plans.
Almost 3 year later and I am still hearing from American Feminist on this issue. Which is why expatriation has become my number 1 priority. Women can go-on assuming I lack tact or some other social skill in order to attach the opposite sex. My skill set is not on trial here. What is; my opinion that older women still have more value than younger women which is a fabrication of Western media.
Western internet dating sites are dominated by women between years of age. Thanks for clearing that up, as based on your old posts, I sure was confused. Women want to be with men that like them and respect them. Perhaps only when they are And yes, that is your personal issue, not women who are single and over the age you have set in your own head where they lack worth.
And Joseph, why would you support an individual that wants to devalue an entire group of people based any factor related to their skin color, creed or age? You do understand that devaluing entire groups of people based on race and religion is no different from doing it based on age yes?
Since your target of choice is women, why would you support another man in his degradation of women? Do you enjoy degrading women too? Things like loyalty, maturity, consideration and compatibility are actually more important to marriage. Two of my friends had miscarriages in their mids and another friend gave birth to an autistic baby at Obviously, this is anecdotal, but the point is that percentages and statistics are not absolutes.
You might also be disappointed when she rather go out clubbing than stay home and cook you dinner. Dating site users are predominantly male. Apps like Tinder are also more attractive for younger men and women. Sites like OKCupid and PoF might attract more older users men and women because they require more content for relationships rather than just looking for hook ups.
There is also -no- western fabrication that says older women are more valuable than younger women, it is the opposite. Media often pairs much younger women with older men, which is why so many older men have a problem with younger women not wanting them.
They feel they are being denied something they seem to think they are entitled to. Maybe people should try dating people in their own age groups if they are unable to get people younger. And especially have to go to other countries and take advantage of people suffering financial hardships. In many cases those people are used for money, and abandoned when the money is gone. Or after gaining PR or citizenship.
Also, millennials mainly grew up on the internet. The mindset is very different from that of baby boomers. Culture plays a big role in younger people wanting to date within their own generation. A 30 year old can relate more to a 20 year old than a 40 year old, in many instances. There are always exceptions, but it is worth considering these aspects before being angry at groups of people. Dating site users are predominantly male? Can you site where you got that information?
I do know dating sites that tend to focus on casual sex and hooking-up do tend to skew male. However, dating sites that focus on partnership and marriage tend to skew more heavily female. Just the ones that have no yet accumulated the emotional intelligence to relate to women, physically, emotionally and mentally beyond pre-pubescent fantasies.
And actually, if you review statistics, there is actually less of a cultural gap then previous generations.
Older men often date younger women, but everyone can benefit when the age gap A year-old woman will have better luck messaging a year-old man And a year-old man is more likely to respond to a message from a year- old. One, that younger women are no longer interested in dating men who are even Because year-old men who are ready to settle down still want to have. While a man in his thirties will fight for his woman and protect her with his life, the case is different with a forty year old. At 40,he has seen it all. He has loved and.
Older and younger alike are all completely saturated in pop-culture whether we want it or not. Memes and other references are shared cross-generationally.
Now older and younger all use the same technology and are all exposed to the same content. Older people are on their iphones as much as younger people.
They use Facebook, Instagram and Twitter too. Technology is not the playground of the young only. So maybe both are accurate to say. Why is it so strange that women years older than you would look at your profile? The nerve of those people! Personally I will go a couple of years older or a couple if years younger and FYI fertility treatment exists and I know at least 10 women from the ages of who have just had successfully their first child some with a second on the way…no help needed.
You need to do some research. Yes, there is some risk, but how badly do you want to really fall in love with the future mother of your child ren? I am 40 and have known I was clinically infertile since I was I am otherwise healthy and although pregnancy and childbirth will carry some risk, the genetic risk factor is out. And yet, I want a man who loves me enough and wants a child badly enough to support me in getting donor eggs or adopting embryos so I may become a mother. There is still time with the help of science and good health.
You never know until you try to conceive what you may be up against. You or the OP could meet your ideal year-old, fall in love, and find out she will have trouble or need help conceiving. Stop getting caught up in the fertility factor, as infertility is QUITE common among all ages of men and women. I would LOVE to start a family with a year-old man. On the flip side, I have seen men in their 40s and 50s state they want kids yet they indicate an age range of in their search stats for a woman.
Unlike you, they must have skipped biology Quit looking for women online! Online is a catalog.I Dated A 40 Year Old - STORYTIME
You get to see if you even connect. You want a family? Quit being lazy and get out there! Leave the country too! At your age you better be looking like those guys on the Fitness magazines. You could become a dad 42, but as the child ages, so will you. Perhaps a woman ten years your junior now, is taking that into consideration. I know I would. With the advances in medical technology, women over 40 are having healthy pregnancies everyday.
However, you admit that you never had a single conversation about your future family before marrying her. How anyone could get married without having these discussions is beyond me but it was clearly not just her fault if you assumed she wanted what you wanted without asking her opinion. You could have walked out then. Seems disingenuous to blame only her for your situation.
A large study in England, the first of its kind, found at 30 a man contributes 6 mos. Another study found men add two and a half years, on average, to the time to pregnancy. A study of women in their early 20s paired with men in their 40s found they typically took two and a half years to get pregnant. A study of women found they were twice as likely to get pregnant if their partner was under 40 vs. Women aged 35 took 5x longer to get pregnant by men aged 45 vs women aged 35 with partners in their twenties.
Women in their early 30s are much more likely to get pregnant in a year if their partner is under Infertility rates in men double between 25 and If a 40 or 45 year old is in this category he may instantly get a young woman pregnant, but he is the exception not the rule. She is 3x as likely to have a miscarriage if her partner is 35 VS 25, regardless of her age.
The older her partner is the less likely a woman is to carry a baby to term. None of these studies were done in fertility clinics as was previously reported in The Guardian. Several studies in fertility clinics found the same. But if someone puts it as the first most important thing I will run away. The guy might say he wants kids, might even mean it, but if you break up where will the children go?
Older fathers are also thought to increase the risk of autism and schizophrenia. Now, men are also being discouraged from having children in their 40s due to exactly the same kinds of health concerns for the child. You can get your eggs frozen at say 33 and then have a very good chance at having a child in your early forties. You can increase that age if your willing to hire a surrogate as well.
Of course all of these options do require that you have some amount of money. This then pretty much relieves the time pressure on having kids for me. Instead of a good 8 years I now have something like 13 years. I am Divorced, was married to a lady 6 months my junior. Both in the same management category. Both strong minded and will full. We both met late 39and with the support of family decided to get married.
Big mistake. She battled to have kids, doctors, the works. I can have kids, even now. Went on a date with a 25 year old. Best time of my life… guess not the same for her. I continue to seek that experience, and yeah its very elusive. Perhaps I should just look out for nice 43 year old? In every other country in the world women keep having children until menapause. Only in the United States many women are morbidly obese, have high blood pressure, diabetes, smoke, drink beer like water, and yet blame fertility and pregnancy issues entirely on age.
Find someone of reasonable weightno bad habits such as smoking or drinking excessively and is free of endocrine problems or gynecological issues like endometriosis and PCOS. There should be very little risk even in her early forties. Focus on finding someone you love and who loves you. There are many risks associated with older fathers such as aspergers, schizophrenia, muscular dystrophy. As well as errectile problems. Yet these women are willing to give you a chance and not seeking someone younger.
Why deny yourself happiness due to a fixed idea. Women who date older men are often less attractive so find difficulty finding someone their own age or need financial support. Trust your gut and think about what you wantrather than numbers.
Why would a woman under 35 take the risk of reproducing with a man over 40? Sperm quality starts dropping after 40 and nose dives after They will want a man who is under 40 too. Adopt a kid and marry someone your age. While I appreciate your predicament and potential loneliness; indeed, I am lonely too [I am 31 years old,] I must say, firstly:. Why would you turn a lady down just because she was ? Is it not all about personality and values.
Also, you state that YOU want to have children — what if the love your life does not want offspring? But you love her because she is enough? Just a thought. And YOU are not taking that medical risk — again — do you not want to get to know a lady first in order to know, firstly, if you love her, and if you do, then surely, that would be enough, either with or without children?
And do you not think that you should take her feelings and plans into consideration before laying out the law? You only live once — why not enjoy life and the life you have with your future partner? Enjoy and love her — and she may love you — and you may have a future — although it may be different to the one you envisaged. I wish you both happiness. They dont even realize the sexism of expecting the woman take a risk with old sperm of lesser quality.
In their ignorance of science, they assume only women have limits to successful breeding. Women are told all the time that if they didnt bother to get ready for life they arent entitled to marry a man who did, otherwise that makes her a vapid, scorned, gold digger.
Well men: if you waited too long to have kids: that doesnt entitle you to someone who had more regard for their breeding potential — it makes you just as vapid and scorned. The statistic, of a woman over 34 having a child is a risk, is merely a statistic. I have created a child when I was My body is a reproductive powerhouse and birthed a nine pound baby and made milk like a milk maid.
Quit being so superficial and trust that you will know how to find a virulent, vivacious and bright woman to bear children.
Many women are in tuned to their bodies and can even tell when they are ovulating.
30 year old woman dating a 40 year old man
Has it ever occurred to you that the only way these 45 year old women can find out if you want children is to open up your profile? If they are writing to you then yes that is their problem. When I was 30 I thought that a man who was 34 was ancient. Fyi, many women in their mid to late thirties have healthy babies. Even though the risks do go up, the odds are still very good that a woman that age will have a healthy child.
Many year old women take good care of their health and are having children later. I do know a 26 year old with a child who has down syndrome though. I am currently pregnant with identical twin girls…monochorionic-diamnotic…meaning I only released one egg and it split.
My last ultrasound showed zero birth defects and no signs of down syndrome. I am going to be 39 in a couple months. I have healthy babies because I ate healthy, nutrient dense food, practiced yoga and exercised regularly prior to getting pregnant. I am gob smacked at this stupid email you received from this 42 year old man. So incredibly self centred. What woman in her right mind would want an old man who just wants her because she can breed for him.
He has spent his entire life chasing skirts and has not found anyone worth his love but at 42 he decides that its time to reproduce.?? I suggest its time to give a good woman your heart and actually want to be in a relationship with someone before you place these LARGE expectations on them. And this goes to any other man who has waited till he is 40 to settle.
I get everyone wants their freedom and fun when they are young but 40s not young, 30s not young and 25 is pushing it. Young is 18 and under and rest of us should have grown up by now. Complete, utter nonsense. When did the desire to have children become calling those who want to have children breeders? I am gobsmacked you would say that, but given the tactics used on the front lines of the gender war, maybe not.
Women are largely depreciating asset. You are at your highest value under 25, unmarried and no children. The SAME does not happen to men. You would call a man who wants children after 40 a womb digger, its unimaginative and proves that some feminist are in fact misandrist.
Memo to men in America. All men really want is a nice looking woman, who stays in-shape and grows old gracefully.
Stress, smoking, bad eating habits, lack of exercisedrug abuse and drinking speed that all up ladies. I believe your spot on Anthony. Ive been looking for a good women to date and have dated some great women. All younger than me as thats whay ive always done. Women that already have children and dont want more should date men in their 40s they do Want children,such as myself.
And then you go on about men being discounted. Everyone thinks its all about them. No one really cares about anyone anymore. And we wonder why we have so many unhappy relationships.
I agree with Carmela, whatever happened to love, not convenience?!! Also, its only natural that older women would start to gravitate towards younger men if men their age act like they should be put out to pasture once they reach a certain age. But noooo, men are still studs because they can still shoot sperm past a certain age, right?
It seem men and women are just. It seems men and women are looking at dates as if they were part of a contract of need and are not looking at each other and are just interested in taking rather than giving….
I whole heartedly disagree. A man in his 40s is really past the age of reproduction as well. If your trying to start a family in your 40s with hopes of kids you would be a womb digger.
Think of it this way if you married someone at 40 had years before you had kids. Now you are 42 by time that kid is 18 and out of just high school your What kind of life are you giving that kind? My grandparents are in their 60s and that would be the equivalent of them having me. I am 28 and do have kids.
I am married and settled with a college education. Women 32 and older increased their chances of giving birth to a down syndrome child each year passed this age. In fact it doubles each year past That is another drawback to waiting. Most people stay within the year either way flux keep that in mind. Past that child bearing becomes complicated and dangerous. So basically, you think a man needs to purchase a woman.
To you, women seem to be similar to cattle or sheep. You expect them to have certain traits but do not think they have the right to also expect certain traits. To that end, you deserve what you get. Your sperm is not a great contribution to society. By all means, if a man or woman want to date someone who is younger or older, go for it.
I think we nailed your problem in meeting women. If you really are a decent human being with a great deal to offer as a boyfriend, husband and potential dad, then you need to change your approach.
Women like to feel they are valued just like you do and not just for their hot fertile bodies. If you are offending women, they are not going to want to date you.
Loven the butt-hurt. Good luck with your 16 yr old Filipino prostitute. She will no doubt love you for you. Maybe Paul Oyer got burned? Let us not get tunnel vision on this matter. Another point: I once dated a man who was unemployed through no fault of his own despite friends complete and disapproval. He was one of the few men that treated me like gold but you know what? Apparently, he did not feel comfortable dating a woman of a different religion.
Just keep on swimming and eventually, the right match will come along, maybe when you least expect it. Take it from an immigrant woman: the ones who marry Americans are looking to get out of the country. They despise you just as much as american women, they do what they must for money. First off Carmela are you enjoying the boys in high school?
I only ask this because most people by the time they reach college figure out that even in your forties you have a long way towards being old.
Secondly to that a man has not found anyone worth his love at age 42 because he has been chasing skirts and suddenly wants to have kids. I am in my early forties and I have never been married. I have date women some younger some older. All have been more than worthy of my love, one broke my heart. I realize now it is good we did not stay together. They were good relationships not mere skirt chasing, but I did not love any of them enough to spend the rest of my life with.
By the way, in this world both men and women can be gold diggers. Also, while some men may just want a woman for her womb, some women just want a man for his sperm. I think you all are giving this guy a hard time. I am 45 and divorced. I have two healthy intelligent children and I was 30 when I had my first child.
Their father was He was married before and had two children. I love kids. I would have had more but I had to talk my now ex husband into our second child.
I am single and not online dating but maybe someday hope to find the love of my life and that dream I will never give up. I find it helpful to reframe past experiences in a positive light. Good luck on your search for love! Even though I think your words are harsh, you made a lot of valid points. I am 43 years old, I was married and had my two beautiful daughters at different stages. First one when I was 21, second by the age I was also married for 15 years. Now I am divorced with a 22 year old and a 14 year old.
I date women my age not younger. Being a mature man, I want and need a mature woman. Not some young woman who has daddy issues. I for some reason think couples should stick to there same age category within reason. Maybe this may sound wrong to most men reading this post, but I think it is wrong for a 40 plus man to date a woman 10 years younger than him.
Maybe because I have daughters, I really do not know why I am that way. Maybe some jail time, but you would be real sorry you did not just stick to your own age group. I like this guy. Sounds like a sensible, decent, common sense man. I am grossed out when men more then 5 or 10 years older then me hit on me, not because I think there is anything wrong with age, but because I think there is something wrong with someone that age trying to sexually interact with someone my age.
I have no respect for a man that would do that. Joe…is a respectable man. Shannon, I will be interested to see what you think of that in 20 years when you are likely divorced and trying to date. It is really not that creepy to date people younger or older.
What is creepy is the attitudes people have. People are attracted to who they are attracted to. What this article is about is not attraction, actually. When people decide that others are there to fulfill their needs and expectations with no regard for the fact that the other is a person at all, there is a serious problem.
Unfortunately, this is all too common across U. Partner is that a threat you just made? There are a considerable number of older men who are experts at playing your game. Hi Joe, wish my dad would have done that….
Why older women and younger men are a perfect match
I do wish however, that older men would leave the young ones alone. I was left with an 11 year old daughter. A single mom which I did not want to be.
I made a terrible mistake and I paid for it. I think women who have relationships with older men lack self-confidence. That was my problem anyway. Cat, how is it that you made a terrible mistake? Do you not even realize how many other women are out here, wishing they had that?
If the only thing that bothers you is that he died early, you need to stop with that because the same could happen with a younger guy, or much more likely is that he leaves you for a younger woman. Because some of you make an issue of this, I asked myself a hypothetical question. If I had to choose between an older guy who loved me completely, but would die on me, or a guy my age or younger who would leave me for a younger woman, I will take the older guy, who actually loves me, and take him without hesitation.
I have only one child, a 13 year old daughter. Whatever the age. It is her choice and what will make her happy, will make me happy.
My father was 20 years older than than my mother. He traveled until he found a place he could make his home and then to find someone to start a family. My brother, sister and I would never be here if my father gave up because he was too old. We love life and we are happy to be on this earth. I too want a family because the woman I married lied is not my fault but now is my problem.
I want a family with several children just like the family I grew up in. Your problem is dealing with life.
There is bad with the good and if you commit a crime by hitting some one or committing a more serious injury, you are the one who is ill and should pay the price to justice. God Bless you. But would you have problems with your 30 year old daughter marrying Donald Trump — if he chose to do so? So only 0. I had it a few times and can verify it. And those guys are reading this post and having the laugh of their life.
As for love and respect — did they ever exist? Again, not my words. I for one get discouraged at the number of women who have never had kids and list in their profiles that they want kids. The right man will be enough for them. Rusty — You have stated on this board that you are done having children. You come to this board to tell us that all American women are b—-es and that you are trying to turn other men against American women as well because we are so awful, and now you come here and admit that you lie about something as important as wanting children in order to get what you want from women.
Be honest in your profile, and if some woman who is on the fence about having children sees your profile and thinks that you may be enough for her, then she might respond. How do you sleep at night telling such a big whopper of a lie online? I thought you were a religious man.
I thought I was being a cynic with this thinking, thanks for confirming it is a lie. No more boxes to check, no more trying to decipher a 2-D profile. Just trying to meet the 3D audio-visual man in the real world, and get to know someone face to face. Trying to decipher the lies from the truth is tricky on or offline, but I do think it is easier IRL. She should not assume that it means he is willing to have children. What site is this. I would like to see what options it gives for you to describe your thoughts on children, because if the options are so limited that it can give false impressions, then I see his answer as perfect, since it is benign and requires discussion on the topic.
JenLee — Match. Also, all OLD sites allow you to write a free form profile, so one could explain that they are done having their own biological children, but would be open to dating a single parent, if that option is not available in the drop down box.
FJ aka SE. Well FJ aka SE, it looks as if you got upset over nothing. I looked at what he said again, and I still was not seeing what you see. So I looked for more of his posts, and used that to do 10 minutes of research. I found his profile. Not unsure. So I went back and read it again. It seems he is speaking hypothetically what he would do and I feel I understand why after looking on that site. I saw some women in their late 40s also stating yes.
Shall I roll my eyes now? So it seems clear to me that he was saying that by doing this, he might get matched with these women, and they might see his profile and strike up a conversation. I do not see where he intended to trick women. It seems he was discussing a hypothetical situation. And he was saying that he wondered how many people were not being truthful about that question, and yes, I can see it turning into a vicious circle. It appears this is what he was saying.
Then through in that if he did that, there might also be some women who are on the fence, not really sure they want kids, but they feel lonely, need someone to love, and like a teenage girlthink popping out a baby is the answer. Nowhere does he say he intended to trick women. Show me where you see that.
Then I will point you back to the word unsure. I would make sure the man and myself were clear on our expectations and not just something as important as that.
But if I did want something as important as children, I for sure would make the man let me know what he wants. No more sitting on the fence when we start talking a serious relationship. In fact, I am not even going to consider a serious relationship without making sure we are on the same page. Yes, I know that men and women lie on their dating profiles. You can get off your high horse any time SE.
The truth is not always right. There are many instances where it is common to lie. Do these pants make my butt look big? Whether to not you put separated or divorced is your choice but you have zero right to judge anyone. I had a friend who put divorced. Why not? She had been separated for 2 years and had not lived together for 5.
Long story but there was a legit reason. She was just a couple of months away from being divorced. As soon as she was able to make contact with men, she would let them know that he divorce was not yet final, but this also allowed her a chance to give an explanation. Often, people assume that you are recently separated.
Every man she talked to was fine and admitted that they were glad she put divorced because in their mind, she was closer to being divorced than their idea of what separated is. One told her that his biggest worry with separated is that they may get back with their husband, or that their wounds are still too fresh.
With her, they realized that was not the case.
So if someone is 30 years old, according to these rules, they should be dating Men tend to stick to their own age as the maximum limit age they are willing If a woman's maximum age range is 40, she is more likely to date. They've lived, they've learned and they've loved, which means your year-old man knows what he wants in terms of dating and relationships. I'd say, “Why would you date a younger woman when you can date an older woman? .. As a fit, attractive, divorced plus 40 year old woman, absolutely the only guys who .. My sister is 30 & has tried every treatment possible to get pregnant.
She could barely even remember what it was like living with her husband. And again, I do not read that Rusty was intending to defraud those women. Had he said yes, that would be entirely different.
All a moot point since the profile of his I found does not say unsure, it says no. You can find it too with simply deductive reasoning. I might make my fake profile I created, into a real profile and send him a message. I did like what he said in his profile. I think the ladies here ran him off. I will admit that I did not agree with every last thing he wrote, but I did notice he was never aggressive or personally disrespectful, that I saw.
But his posts were quite unpopular with some, and I can see why, but I also can see the difference between him posting unpopular opinions, and the personal attacks often made against him because of his opinions. Maybe he did not offend me because I never felt he was talking to me, since I do not fall into the group he seems to have a problem with.
But maybe it is better that he does, because of the personal attacks. The right man will be enough for them? Look at you, deciding what these women want before even meeting them. Wow, just wow. Hahaha womb digger! That kills me. I am a 30 year old woman and I can tell you from experience… all the men that court me are womb diggers. I would love to meet a guy in his mid to late 30s, get married, maybe have kids, have a house, the whole shebang. But womb digger, omg. I completely relate to that.
Carmela 1. Who knows why he stayed 5 years with someone who had such different life goals. Maybe she waffled in the beginning and said that she might want to have children. And who knows what his relationship history was prior to that. We women get all up in arms, when men write with such contempt about 30 something women longing for a husband and family. My last GF strung me along for 6 years claiming that she wanted kids, but not yet, until finally admitting that she had lied from the beginning.
Even after that it took me another 2 years to break up with her, because I really did love her anyway. Watching him have fun with us made me not so afraid of getting older. My grandparents had been married for over 30 years at that point. My parents are still married to this day. I often used to wonder what my own marriage would be like. I was kind of an outcast. No worries. I graduated school, and went on to get a good job with a fortune company.
I did stand-up at local comedy clubs. But I still found it almost impossible to date. Am I in a hurry to have kids? You betcha! And despite being a little older, I can still show her a good time, and play catch with our son, or have a tea party with our daughter.
They deserve that. You sound like quite a catch. Women are attracted to strong and confident men. Unfortunately many times this comes along with being an asshole.
There are many PUA sites which will give you tips on what women are attracted to.
This is science. In other words there is data to back this up for all the naysayers out there. You might have to go overseas. Eastern Europe, Latin America and the Orient are places to go. Finding love outside the United States is mentioned several times in this thread. He attributes this in large part to the feminism movement in this country, and also cultural differences in general. WIth any luck, you still have 40 to 50 years ahead of you — plenty of time to see your kids grow up.
I agree with you but that is not how our world operates today. People stay in school right up to Get their masters. Give me a break…. You are right when they reach 30 they should start looking and stop playing pickup at the bar….
Just because they are young, it does not guarantee they will have a healthy child. I also know women in their 40s giving birth for the first time to super healthy and smart babies.
Yes of course older women have higher risks giving birth to healthy babies. However I have read UK medical research report that the older age of men not women were a huge factor on the increase of autism. Go out and meet real people face to face. Strike up conversations while waiting in line for starbucks. Check out your local events calendar for your city and meet people-real people.
Go to pool parties. Go to food events sponsored by the city. Guys hate to ask for advice; however they can gain alot by asking women what turns women off about men. Women can also gain from asking men advice. I agree. If I had it to do again I would have a child young with someone else young because it is easier on your body and gives you more time for enjoyment on the tail end of life. I had a child with a man younger than me — not intentionally, but being in my late thirties it was 20 something guys who wanted to date me!
Worked out great, she is smart and has a very young, energetic dad. Most men do. I get hit on by the younger crowd too may times to think about.
What young woman would want to go out with her dad. Another thing you have nothing in common and your not as viral as a younger man. You know, you tire easily.
I too am grossed out but only by older men your age…The younger men are much better looking…. Brandon — Not being attracted to every 54 year old woman you meet is one thing.
Perhaps that is the case? You feel insecure about your own aging process? Well you dont know how old those guys are exactly, do you? I am 33 and my father is There were plenty of men in that range messaging me.
They are dad aged. Our society has gone mad. I never thought much of dating an older woman, but boy since I hit 30yrs old women seem to make a bigger deal about a guy dating younger women. John my mom and dad were both 21 when they had me. Many 37 years old women refuse to date men only years older than them and they go for the much younger ones. Even to the point that a man wanting to date someone 5 years younger leaves women feeling that the only biggest men appreciate about them is their age.
Can you blame women for feeling that way? Take a look how men talk about women here? Women deal with so much external pressure about their age that I think are tired. Just like men no longer just want to be an extension of their paychecks or job. Just find some poor, economically disadvantaged gold digger from a third world country. Oh, and leave any shred of self respect you have left at the border.
No offense to this man, but I agree with the women who say that he waited to long. While there are exceptions, most younger women most women in general prefer to be with a man who is within the same age bracket as we are. I know I am one of these women, for several reasons. This is the reason why I want to find someone who is at the same stage of life as me. Additionally, my own father took off when I was very young and left my mother and I with absolutely nothing.
For this reason, I refuse to have a child at this point in my life when I have literally nothing to provide for it. It just seems unfair to have a child in my situation. There are exceptionsit is usually because he has a lot of money and not because of romantic chemistry.
With that being said, I personally am not averse to dating an older man provided I like him, we have chemistry and there is no pressure on my part to give him a child. Oh and for the men who pointed out that childbearing in women over the age of 34 is a risk factor, there are risk factors in children of men over a certain age too. In a few years, this man will be a medical risk factor himself.
What do these men say?
Is there anything wrong with a 30 year old male dating a 40 year old I am dating a year-old Korean man and I am a year-old woman. For older men dating younger women, these are the rules you should been linked with a year-old Tory advisor called Carrie Symonds. She is not the only woman in her 40s or 50s to have fallen in love with a 'A year-old woman can go out with a year-old man and easily.
Do you like kids? Do you have any nieces or nephews? Do you want kids of your own? Women these days, just like yourself, are incredibly screwed up. So, when do think you would have kids, when you are 45? It makes me sick to see modern families when 45 year olds have their first children.
And for all of you, women, a man will naturally want to have kids with you when you are in your most attractive fertile age of yo. Your biological clock says the same. So, when you are 45 chances are higher you will be screwing yourselves, but that does not get you pregnant.
Not you, not Ior anyone else. She has a right to wait until she wants. Not everyone is going to get pregnant. And yes, the rate of infertility goes up for women and men with age. We all know this. I was 38 when I fathered twins during the first month that we attempted to have a child. Our twins have outranked most of their peers since they were in elementary school, and they are among the youngest in their graduating class. A lot their performance stems from having older parents who took the time to become established before getting married and starting a family.
Both of their parents hold graduate degrees, and are self-made professionals. I put myself through college and graduate school, and I did it after serving in uniform on active duty for five years I enlisted straight out of high school. A little known fact is that there were no post-service G. Men and women who enlisted during that period of time were not eligible for the Vietnam G. Bill or the Montgomery G. Alot of women are tired of men treating our ages like something they are owed and deserve to own to carry on their genes through children.
You got lucky. You married a younger woman.
I told him my actual age about a month after we started dating. He asked me to marry him a few weeks later and we were married when I was We have been married nearly 19 years and that is a little longer than our age gap.
He is now the age I was when I married him. I actually did get pregnant prior to our wedding, but neither one of us wanted to have kids, so that was ended.
We have our problems, but it not age related. The only thing I can see that is somewhat of a problem is that all my friends are retiring and traveling, and my husband has to work for another 20 years before he retires.
I could be my husband's mother, but people rarely notice our age difference. I have always looked younger than my age. Your biggest issue will be is if you want to have children and she may not be able to have them. My biggest question would be: why are you seeking validation from others? Do you need others to approve of your choices to make it ok in your mind? You have to ask yourself what you want, not what everyone else wants.
You find her attractive, does that mean you have been flirting with her? Talking with her? Or are you asking others if it is ok to ask her out on a date? Have you be on a date with her already, and now you are wondering if you should pursue a relationship? Otherwise, who cares what anyone else thinks. If you want a casual thing, do that too, just make sure you know exactly what is going on. Perhaps before you worry about whether or not ONE date with her could lead to something you will regret or a long term relationship, you might want to consider what YOUR priorities are in a long-term relationship.
ONE date does not mean you will automatically get a long term relationship or have anything to regret. If you are so worried about all potential dates leading to a long term commitment, perhaps you should figure out what are you 'Must Haves'. Age may not be as big a factor in your "future plans" as income, lifestyle, morals, sense of humor. My personal opinion is to go on the date.
I know a couple who, according to the so-called social rules, shouldn't work. He's Pakistani, she's American. She's nearly 20 years older. Yet somehow, despite her relatives treating him like dirt and numerous visa nightmares, they are stronger and happier together than ever.
Age is only a number. If you both have maturity, silliness and an open mind in equal balance, there is no reason it could not work. Ten years is still close enough in age that you'd still have a lot in common. It's a good idea to consider what your true reservations are, and what hers might be, but I can think of couples I know who are doing well with this age difference. It's definitely worth a few dates to see how much you have in common. I should note that some of them do have kids, one had a child naturally at 46, another adopted the child of his younger sibling at Another couple both had children before their marriage and have been married less than a year but together for 5.
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