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Lives of Unmarried Women in their 30’s and 40’s

W hen a single person reaches their 40th birthday, they ought to get a letter from the Queen, just like centenarians do. Every billboard, every magazine, every acquaintance, every romantic comedy is asking me to pick a mould to pour myself into: hopeless romantic, hedonistic bachelor or desperate spinster. I have tried all three. None fit. Even George Clooney is getting married. A couple of years ago, I dated extensively. I then joined Gaydar.

For most of the women here — all of whom are quite secure monetarily — they would consider your suggestion to go dutch as a deal-breaker. I speak from my experiences that I encountered from where I was living. Had far to many dine and dash dates is why I said that. Every city and state will vary in how dates go. I just turned So I would love to meet a man I am 61 and handicapped but very lonely as my husband passed away a few years ago but we had not been sexually active for many years and I am quite tired of being alone and need a mans arms around me.

What do I do??????? Carla, you learn all you can about grownup men, dating and getting online in a healthy way. I have tons of articles on my blog that can help you get started. I hope this helps and best of luck! Thank you for this article. Thank too for leaving the comment section open. I learned quite a bit just from reading those entries. And scared due to broken trust long ago and some abuse issues. I have a diagnosed mental illness that I manage well I think.

I certainly know how to keep my problems to myself. Not a highly accomplished, sparkly, extroverted woman. Over a year with a profile on one of the major dating sites, and no dates.

None from my real-life interactions either. I will need to learn how to actually enjoy being alone, not just endure it. And I need to spend as much of my time and energy as possible in earning more money.

Thanks for all you do Bobbi. At this time in life we all have crappy baggage. Give this a read and give yourself a break! Do some work on getting to know your beautiful feminine self. As we all are. She just wants validation and is needy but will never meet anyone. These types always latch on to me. I wasted over 2 years on dating sites and finally learned my lesson after hundreds of dollars down the tubes. Dating sites are just a way to suck money out of men.

You mainly have scammers, Pros and clowns to deal with. A man needs a woman when his young to give him the motivation to succeed so he can provide for her and children if applicable.

He just wants a best friend. If you get married your wife should be your best friend. Makes the marriage go better I am told. I think growing old alone is the worst way to die. When I turned 29 she left me for some guy she just met. They have two children now. I tried online dating and found it to be a really bad experience. After a couple weeks I gave up as it was making me depressed and ruining my self esteem. Myself, I am sorry for your loneliness and frustration.

If you want to have a relationship with a woman you will have to start asking them out. The vast majority of women, especially your age, are NOT going to make the first move. I encourage you to go online, ask women out for coffee or a drink if you find them interesting, and see where it goes.

They either accept or reject your offer of coffee and you move on. And make sure your profile has nice pictures and reflects the best, most positive side of you. You completely missed the whole point of his comment. He DID ask women out.

Many of them. Did you read his comment? He said after a couple weeks he gave up. He needs to build his own confidence then women will notice without him really asking.

He mentioned in his comment that dating at work is off limits! I feel for ya, I really do. I have pretty much given up on the dating thing as well, but after a couple of years really trying.

At times I go to bed early to just get the day over with. Learn some new things so you can do the dating thing a little differently. Rooting for you! Its not learning new things to do on a date. It is not having a date and rejection is the issues at least for me. Day late and dollar short.

I read your article while randomly looking for articles to help me put away bitterness of being forced alone again. I was broadsided out of nowhere with a dump text on my 47th birthday weekend by my fiance of 9 years and am still haunted by the pain of this almost a year later.

We have not communicated since. Please know my questions are not meant to be rude, hurt, or drudge up anything negative. Not the paranoid nosy though. I apologize if it does. About the Sexpot type…. I just wish to add EXTRA emphasis that not all men are going to go for sex on the first date, and it can be for profound reasons. He also said that the key to having a great sexual relationship with a partner was communication, and that communication takes time to develop.

He admitted to me that some women dumped him for saying this early on in some of his dating experiences after 40, but he stayed on course. He only likes relationship sex. Not that he has any issues with consenting adults who connect casually. As soon as he said this to me, I realized I had a guy on my hands with a tremendous amount of emotional maturity. We are physical now, and I have never felt more spiritually, emotionally and physically connected to a guy in my life.

And another thing…. I met my guy online, where I am well aware that one of the biggest red flags in polls is avoiding men who have never been married after Women have to understand that the overwhelming majority of us have kids thru biology or adoption by the time we hit He simply felt it was unfair to wreck her dreams of starting a family by lying to her that he wanted a family just so he could have a girlfriend and a sex partner.

He had seen other males do this and found the behavior awful. These guys were lying — emotionally investing their female partners in a dream that would never come true.

And he just ran into bad luck. Others only wanted to date men who had kids already. Let them tell their side of the story. Because if I had done so, I would be missing out on a wonderful relationship. So he focused on other things. He did volunteer work and such, and he has a number of unique interests.

These women who dumped him really screwed up. Jeanette S. Thanks for sharing your story, Jeannette. Your points here are very important. Concur with these categorizations — interesting, thoughtful, illuminating — yet also highly amusing.

I find your categorizing women totally offensive. To think that all women fall into your archaic versions of how women are regarding men is an insult to every woman…. This is a pathetic post…. Women are much more than our value to men…. Shame on you for spewing your shit. Good luck finding any good man who wants a mean girl.

Jennifer, I think you just proved her point there, Bitter Gal. Perhaps constructive criticism would be more helpful than personal attacks on someone. You been hurt we get it. Spend time with yourself to find out why you are so angry. Not health to be that mad and attempt to shame someone for Freedom Of Speech.

That some of them have self-defeating aspects to their personality as it regards their dating and relationships. Being excessively harsh and judgementel is not a good look for anyone. I am a 39 year old single mother. I thought I was doing it all right in my youth.

I went to college, I met my husband at church, we waited to have sex until marriage. I supported him in his career endeavors, moving around the country to follow where his career took us.

I worked when I had to, and when I could stay home with our son I was very grateful. I loved being a mother and I loved being a wife. We eventually decided to start a business together. I needed up working on the business from home while he worked at the office. It was a dream. Until he had an affair and fell in love with one of our employees. I wanted to save the marriage. He ended up hiring a lawyer and would not agree to just settle outside of court.

In the end, he left me destitute. I just wanted to get through it so I could rebuild my life and provide for our son. I literally went from being on food stamps, mediCal, and having a childcare subsidy to being the second in command over a multimillion dollar medical facility. Though I did not fight in court, I rerouted that energy and fought for my life instead. I went to back to school.

I worked hard. I now pay child support to my former husband because I make more than both him and his wife combined they both still work at the company we had started. I would much rather be my old self again, and have my family back together. People change. Circumstances change. My former husband and I were very much in love once. It was so easy when I was younger. Dear Accidentally Alone, Your comment… wow! I hate that you feel alone, scared and worried.

I just wanted to somehow relay what an amazing woman you are- hold your head up high, Sista. I applaud you!

He’s 38 and Still Single, and Here Are the Reasons Why

I Had to say something when I read your comment. So much of your story and perspective mirrored my own journey and I wanted to say thank you for sharing. I find that there is a lot fear and guardedness in both men and women I talk to in the single scene. Most folks have been hurt in one way or another. I hope you keep reaching out and not give up. I believe the rewards are SO worth it in overcoming the internal fears.

There are good men and women out there. Keep the faith. Ghosting is a huge difficulty with online dating and modern communication in general. I hear it from men and women. It is very discouraging to want to continue meeting people online if you experience a couple of ghosts. If more people would do that it would be a better dating culture. Giving each person closure after each connection is kind and fosters them being open to the next connection. Anyone else feel that way?

Hi Teresa. Enjoy it. When it does, it will be the lovely icing on your cake. Been apart from my ex for 6 years. I dress nice, am friendly and I realize the pool is extremely small. I prefer ladies between 48 and Almost all are married or in a relationship. Online dating is horrible. Step back and reevaluate? Any ideas? You sound just like the women I coach.

Ladies: what kind help can you give Tim? It discouraged me and stopped looking for a partner. As for the type of feminist, not sure either one would describe me found elements in though ; I find online dating exhausting, time consuming and very frustrating.

I focus my time now with joining hobby groups. I love outdoors, hiking, Travelling, beach walking. Al you have done here is boxed women into caricatures and stereotypes. How about discussing the man who is the perpetual Peter Pan and at over 50, still believes he has everything in common with a 20 year old or the over 50 year old narcissist who only knows how to be taken care of but knows nothing about how to be in a monogamous mutual loving relationship.

Looks a lot like you are blaming women here! Very disappointing! And the best way to do that is to start from a place of empathy, not anger or bitterness.

Both divorced and have kids but none together. After the first 7 years I learn he has a friend with benefits in another country.

He sees this girl twice a year and she is a groupie. Or are his actions due to his insecurities and distrust of women and his own weaknesses? This is how you can learn to walk away: He is not going to change. Probably ever. So you either fully accept who he is and what he does, or you leave. Or stay stuck and miserable trying to change him. Those are your only 3 choices as I see it. I do not know why this man is doing what he does. You are correct, that your unwillingness to walk away from this admitted cheater is probably rooted in your childhood experience.

Worth exploring with a counselor I suggest. Best of luck — Bp. The reason you are getting this wrong is the same reason everybody else gets relationships wrong. You think the problem is about him when its about you. Whatever you feel about yourself you will attract into your life and you will seemingly feel like its a fit for you even though you might not like it.

I see a little bit of myself in each of the categories, because after all, I am a woman. I am older but still attractive and young at heart.

I am not usually interested in men my age, because they can be negative and set in their ways. This is the biggest turnoff. We women want a man who is truly interested in us as a person first. We want to be treated with respect and kindness. Those are the main things, and then if we have something in common, we can maybe begin a relationship. It does take time! One important thing for me, and I believe most women, is to have regular contact with the guy.

If a man wants to get a woman interested, he needs to call just about every day, not out of duty, but if he is interested, this is the best way to start a relationship. I like men a few years younger, mainly because they have more vitality. Sorry, but bombarding women with messages is not good advice.

Nice article and yes the comments are worth reading. Dated on and off, mostly thru POF and other sites. Having to maintain daily contact, plan for time together, integrate lives, etc. Lots of guys start out early in a conversation texting or talking about sex and asking for sexy pictures.

Good luck in your search. I advise my friends to avoid stereotyping based on dating experiences and be happy with their single status. I am so glad to have stumbled upon this article mostly for these comments.

I have since dated 2 other men. I treasured the last man, but yes combining lives and making time was becoming to frustrating at this time. I still have a teenage daughter at home and know that I need to remain single until she is a bit older. It can feel overwhelming at times when you want to have the male counterpart to reach out and connect with and do not have.

But making time to just be me for my kids and myself is of utmost importance at this time. I appreciate these comments, because there are so many of us out here wanting to share ourselves.

Yet, we here we are single. I am going to make the most of this kind of time to be me and grow! Thank you for your response I truly appreciated reading it. It sounds incredible, but it is true. I should have been playing the lottery with them odds. Have never had anyone set me up on a date and the few friends I had, their wife or gf never ever have any single friends.

I live in eastern Washington and its a desert for dating. I have sent out hundreds and hundreds of messages and never a reply. I see where they look at my profile and nothing else. The few that ever wrote to me I did not find attractive in the least, but I would reply that I am not interested instead of just tossing their message in the trash like how it is done to me.

Couples do things with couples, its a fact and just how it is. I never wanted to be alone, but here I am. Always look around but never see much, either to young or to married or dating. End of this year will be the start of my 8th year without a single date.

So from about age 35 to 65 there is nothing at all for singles. I do understand the complexity of the church doing anything for singles. I go to bars now and then for a drink, but will not date a women from there.

Its like the dating life style is gone away. To me there is a pattern forming from talk with men of different age groups.

So, I got no clue any more, tired of doing everything by myself, but its not like I got a choice. I think when I retire I will move to another country where I can find a women who wants a good man and not a bad boy. No place to meet good men. There are so many girls out there that will put out on a first date or are just wanting FWB.

Dating after 40 stinks! It was a matter of picking the best one out of a few choices. The biggest strongest man got the most beautiful woman and the second best got the second best woman and so on until every man and woman in the tribe had a match. Believe it or not women were most likely happier and even in recent times we can see they were more happier in this type of environment that ended with feminism.

Humans are horrible with choices and always do much better when they have no choices. The idea that people want more choices is lunacy because then no choice is ever made. I should have invested money into match and other dating services because they will be busy as long as this type of society exists.

However the collapse of this type of society eventually comes because the family unit has been destroyed. Congrats America! Yes things have changed. You might want to try it. I agree with Jim! And just because you or others think its a GOOD thing — is a subjective conclusion.

I tried online dating, it made me depressed. You spend all this time reading profiles and writing messages that get no response or a one word reply. After a while you lower your standards and finnaly get a date with someone who turns out to be morbidly obese with three kids and 40k in debt.

You try to make the best if it, hoping that they have a good personality…. In not interested in sex outside of a long term relationship but women always.

Jake, thanks for sharing your experiences. For the record, the women I work with and who ARE online, are attractive, smart and accomplished. But just know that there are good women online who are looking for a nice man. Fortunately for me I do not see myself in any of these types. I have had seasons of friendships with woman who fit some of the above types- hence why it was a season of friendship. It surprises me that woman over 40 still struggle with these behaviors. It is making me feel more equipped for dating any way.

Perhaps this is why many of them are complaining about men they are dating? They are not looking inward at the perception men have of them only outward.

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Like attracts like. These are understandable undesirable traits! I Was married for a long time. I dated briefly when a wonderful man unexpectedly came into my life it was shortly after filing for divorce, the timing was off -as I really needed time in between. So I took a year to heal and completely let go of my marriage, get to know me again, enjoy myself take on some new adventures found some new passions and figured out who I am now as opposed to when I got married abandoned what it is that I want in life.

I have become very happy and comfortable in my own skin and now I am Interested in dating again. If this is my competition I should do well hahahahah! I have been all of these types. I am all of these types. Fromit all depends on where the man met me that I hit on that range.

You have no other mind, no other purpose. I have been single for a very long time, because I want a best friend. It has to be shown. It has to be felt. Am a single mother am 28yrs ofage i have a grown up son of 11am i. A relationship with. Debbie, unless you have an in-person not just text email or phone relationship with this man, and he has spent significant time with you and your son, again, in person, then you do not have a real-life relationship, no matter what he promises or what you wish for.

If your just looking in America that is. Having traveled outside the US to many other countries I can tell you there are decent women out there even at this age and they still have class. In America and other countries following the American footsteps ie Australia and a lot of European countries. They have been divorced and have a ton of problems and the next guy they land they will always suspect he is doing the same thing the scumbag she left is doing. After they finally leave the scum bag, they move onto another scumbag bad boy and the same repeats itself.

Next thing is sadly, American women love to copy one another and that is having a bunch of tattoos and dressing like trash. I mean come on, us men are expected to not be pigs and have good hygiene right? Maybe have a different wardrobe other then cargo or capri pants. I am white and I am sickened by the amount of low class types in my own race.

If you were born with a missing limb, deaf, cleft palate, MS, blind or some other birth defect its completely different and I personally overlook this because this is not the persons fault.

At the same time, putting a cow ring through your nose is and tells everyone you are starving for attention and you probably need mental help. All it takes now is for some woman to make a false claim you did something to her and everything you ever worked for is GONE. The biggest lie most of the men are told is that women are always after a guy who has his life in order. So far from the truth. Much like going outside with wet hair and being told you will get sick because of it.

Women expect us men to bring a bunch to the table in a relationship, maybe we expect the same in return. What is dating like for a guy over 40? Not good. And that is better answered by a guy and not a woman. No offense BP. Wow, Matt. Good women sense negativity. I dated in my 40s as a single mom and found a good guy, also with lots of baggage. After 4 years we will be marrying in a few months and blending our families.

Kind of have to open your heart a bit too, take a risk, stop judging, and shell out some empathy. I am 41 single, never been married, no kids, no pets, no debts. I am not responsible for my parents as they are very well off and traveling the world. My last bf was from 9yrs ago who is from the Netherlands. Sure, I dated but never really found someone I was super interested in. I live all over the world for a decade now US for spring and fall, S.

It was very interesting, thanks to all these dating apps, it made it easier to meet someone all the time. Since I became 40, I rarely date. I am comfortable being alone.

I accept that if one day I never find my partner that I am okay. For me, my happiness is more important than anything. I would like to meet someone who is happy with themselves, kind to others, reliable, consistent, interesting, who appreciates traveling the world. Currently, I am exploring this new dating chapter of being 41 and so far I am liking it. However, I am keeping positive at the moment! And thanks for that, someone needs to have children. Oh, it could be nice to meetsome one….

Should I get into a relationship and let my mood potentionally go to a roller coaster state of mind, hight peaks and low vallies? I pick him up for lunch and we used to go to the movies and dinner but he stopped wanting to go out with me.

He still enjoys having lunch with me and calls me on the phone if I ask him to call me. He has a biological child and step children with his ex. She asks him for money for all the kids even though she twice as much as he does and he is always spending his time and money with her family and then complains about it. All I had said was that I wanted us to get to know each other better.

I did try to stop talking to him but it seems that when I start walking away he will start talking to me, to reel me back in. Confused, he probably really enjoys your company and the attention you give him. This article will help you understand why he does this, but if you want a long term, committed relationship you will need to cut ties with this guy for good and move on.

But worse is knowing that when she gets board with me etc and moves on I will lose contact.

Dating life of single men over 40 looks more exciting than for females of the same age, research found. Only your next 40 years will matter. I am 60 years old and have been to Ukraine many times and have developed a. Dating as a year-old and dating as a year-old are nowhere near Not only do single men and women sleep more, but they also sleep. A women interested in men in their 40s on a date with a year which means your year-old man knows what he wants in terms of dating assume because someone is single in his 40s means he's damaged goods.

I tried online dating and it made me really depressed, reading the lists of demands on womens profiles and sending well thought out messages that never got a response was grueling and was giving me a low opinion of women so I stopped. Next year I turn 30 and will officially call it quits, most of my friends already have.

I get your reasons and they make sense to me! Get out there, hone your flirting skills and make the first move, like a gentleman. Good luck! Fair valid points here, but you have missed one very important point which seems to plague Essex and beyond in the United Kingdom. A lot of women are Money orientated beyond hope. Throughout my adult life I have had many enjoyable relationships of varying lengths, but have never been moved to make any sort of commitment, though there have been many opportunities to do so with a number of wonderful women.

I was concerned about disappointing womennot being that white knight that they were looking for. Still, as I get older, I get a little more realistic about it. Steven, who works for a commercial real estate development firm, characterized himself as reasonably handsome and in good shape, intelligent and educated, and financially secure. And, he said, his luck with women has been consistently good. In fact, afterward those women turned out to be very good friends of mine. Still, Steven admitted, he holds dear one idea that can be a barrier to marriage.

They should be mature and self-sufficient to a degree, but not bored or jaded. Intelligence is at the top of my list.

I think it has to do with your peer group. I was 34 when I got married and was the last of my friends to get married- so that felt like I was a bit behind the curve. Do you think this is still prevalent in America? Wow… go John! Getting the senior is solid! When she graduated, did you continue to have fun in college? You make a good point about men getting rejected in their early years from older women and therefore avoid them as they get older.

But, as men get older, I think society focuses so much on younger women just check out magazine covers! Thank goodness there are beautiful older women out there like Judi Dench and Helen Mirren to look up to!

Come on now! You serious? Shoot for the range. Some good ones there. There are tons of single women in all age rangesand not so many single men in all age ranges. The men who are single always seemed to want a gorgeous super-model, which left me out. I dress nicely, smile, have good personal hygiene, and am thin…. Ah well. One day maybe a good guy can see past my looks. You mean, you approached and asked for sex and they said no?

Or you had sex and it was horrible or being around you is worse than being castrated despite awesome orgasms? This is fascinating. I had some ideas about this, but never looked at any research on it. Since graduating from grad school, I have been on dates with girls ranging from 22 to 39 while I was in my mids. Something happened to me recently around my 27th birthday where I decided I was old enough to stop wasting time on relationships that I knew would be a dead end.

I am okay with a maybe, but feel like I am too old for a sure failure. I am well below your 35 number, but I feel like I could settle down and pick one girl if I find the right one. I am not in a rush, but my thinking has moved that way recently.

My son is getting married next year and he will be 35! He has been dating his fiance for about 5 years. I think people are waiting to get married because they can live together and even have children. Why get married? Women date older men for security and money! Older men are usually more stable and have more money. Women find that very attractive. Proud poppa!

I hope we are all living longer and happier lives. I really have no idea on this one. I put 28 for women because, similar to what Mark said, women have that biological clock going around that age. Somehow I managed to beat the odds and rejection by marrying an older women. My wife is a whole 11 hours my senior.

It still counts though. Science shows that girls develop and mature faster than boys. I met a 21 year old guy last month who ONLY dates older women and at a minimum of five years older than him. He runs his own company, and has his head together a lot more than the average 21 year old guy.

He even dated a woman who was 33 with two kids. Also, think about that 21 year old guy ONLY dating older women…. Oh, just read your comment. Two kids I mean. Nice donkey pics! Donkey love rocks! Look at how the male donkey on the left has an attractive female donkey nuzzling up to him.

My wife is 8 months older than me. For sure! You must be a good catch!

A 35 year old single mother with a spacerook.com me who was only 26 and without even a bicycle learned about all this through friends. Damn all 40 year old men and.

I dated younger men. Some younger guys are mature enough to handle an older woman. Some are not. I think age does not matter. What matters is maturity, confidence and sophistication level. I just seem to be more attracted to older men. I think it comes down security for women, even if it is on the sub-conscious level — they are always looking for security. The time fellow number two is in his 30s, he is more confident and secure with himself. I believe that comes across and makes more women interested.

Just my two cents. I am older than my husband by 4 months. Those relationships work really well. I wonder what the results would have been if you had surveyed different people or had a larger sample size.

Congrats on your 15 year marriage! Oh, no. Perhaps I should have been more clear. It would seem to make sense. Congrats on 23 years! I shot you an e-mail, and am awaiting your response. Really interesting read. I always love seeing the posts around Valentines Day. Pretty insightful this one! My husband is my age though. But if you suddenly wanted to start dating at 44, you just have to go for the 60 year old! I never really had trouble dating but I am a hopeless romantic who got his heart broken a few times.

One relationship took me 5 years to completely get over and I was dating a lot back then. Dang, 5 years is a long time Jai! How old were you then?

Did you go on drunken escapades around town? If you follow your heart. But many of us men and women alike get very protective of it. Which is normal. What not normal though not living your life by your heart.

If you're a woman dating after 40, it will help you to know what it's like for the Below are the common types of women single grownup men have told me about. The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the year-old. When a single person reaches their 40th birthday, they ought to get a letter that the two single gay men she knew would “get on like a house on fire” who is not a good match, too old to enjoy mindless hedonism and not old enough And, if I can shed 40 years of propaganda, I may come to feel what my. Yet you may have reached your 30s or 40s and never have been married. So ? Here's what Steven, a year-old Laguna Beach resident, had to say At age 38, does this single man--whom some might consider an.

The age would never come into the topic. It would be just heart to heart. Because we love through energy, not through time that had passed. Alas, but I am already spoken for and have to get my dating thrills vicariously. Thanks for the insights Dr. Sam Love! Hmmm, just check out the comments from self-proclaimed attractive women regarding loving dating men years their senior! I took the bait and spent 10 minutes perusing the comments over there and only found one brief mention of dating guys 10 years older than herself from USsquid.

You're a single, professional woman, and you'd like to find a long-term partner. Over age 40 and having had either one (usually) short marriage and/or as freeze-dried hamburger and have the maturity of a year-old. Of the 25 single men I surveyed ages , they all agree that around 35 is the best time for a The year old man is dating the under 35 year old woman. Should I be wary of single men in their 40s who have never been married .. Would a year-old man date a woman in her 30s for a serious.

Oh yeah and Cynthia sounded…ummm…interesting. Didja ever call her? I keep telling my single girl friends to go for the younger men since women live longer than men, but alas most of them like older men claiming the whole maturity thing. I know for a fact, however, that if I had met my now fiancee a few years ago she would have cast me aside. My maturity was definitely lacking. God has great timing for sure!

Intriguing article! It cannot be helped! Maturity, like beauty must be in the eye of the beholder for women because I feel like I have regressed in my maturity, but my wrinkles and loss of hair tend to fool them. I am Should I just kill myself in 6 months or lie about my age till a guy marries me hehe… Do tell….

Learn to live alone and love what you can in your life. I understand how you feel right now and i believe you that your future is grim. But hey we can find something to live for. You just have to try while feeling empty until something kicks. And if you never find something and get overwhelmed n die no one will blame you.

Your email address will not be published. Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting. Sign up for the private Financial Samurai newsletter! What about the Golden Cross Of Love for women? Share Pin 2. Comments Now that Feminism is everywhere these days which makes the dating scene very impossible to meet a woman for many of us single men now.

To Suavis, What makes you think that women are normal today? Very tough to find a good woman with a real Brain these days.

I am sure you break a lot of mirrors when you look at them. Then again many women out there are real such Losers anyway. Having been with hundreds of women majority of them were older than me. As for me? Thanks for your perspective. Good to hear! Maybe women and men are becoming much more similar over time. How are things now? Now is fine, like I said still better than in my 20s. A guy 15 years older is way too old.

He could be my dad! No she can not get a 35 year old man, unless he is a beta male idiot. They have nothing to offer. Not only do they look bad, but they have big list of ex lovers. Only an idiot would go with them. Haha, and so you and every woman should look at a single, dashing, rich 35yo male cautiously!

Nice story on Jack Welch! I had no idea. Fun post stuff Sam! Will tweet : I think you have opened the door for another post, about marrying-up :. Yeah, could be good! So many posts to write, so little time……. I wonder how common it is for professors to date their students? Pray tell professor! I know right? What kind of 40 year old man would want a 25 year old wan?

Congrats on getting a younger man! Time to get cracking Mike! After all, you are in Bangkok! Happy V-Day to you and the Mrs. I think the 25 yo man has a problem. His sample set is tiny!

I prefer Catherine Zeta Jones for the older woman example. Not bad! Sounds like it will just get better for you Eric for the next 8 years! Do you care who your son marries? She is terrific, I think of her like a daughter.

Why Single Men Love Growing Old

OK, let us know Jeff! Interesting post you have today on food stamps. What about the parents? Woman are on the clock if they want children, so they are in more of a rush to settle down. Oh Sydney, men are very, very good and making women think in different ways. Good for them for finding each other. Forward thinker from the Iron Curtain! What about now though? Only older men now right? LOL Now I am married. To a guy who is two years older than me. And that is why men love growing older!

Why is a 40 year old man single

Thx Rachel! AG, I think you are pretty spot on. However, since you are married, I must discredit everything you just typed! Ah, got it. After 7 years, same difference! College sweethearts, cool! Yes, does not pertain to you, sorry Kris! But then my 44 might be the new 25….

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